Facebook stalking. We’ve all done it. When we meet somebody new, especially somebody who we might be interested in, most of us turn to Facebook to find out all we can about them. But sometimes, Facebook just isn’t enough. We want to know the juicy details like, “Is he a good kisser?” or “Is he a player?” or “Does he treat girls with respect?” Well ladies, now there is an app just for that.
Lulu is a new application that allows women to login with Facebook and rate their guy friends, ex-lovers, and hookups on everything from their commitment level to how well they tip at restaurants. Guys will never know about their ratings (unless they steal your phone), and it is completely anonymous. So is this a useful tool to navigate the dating waters, or does this cross a line?
At first glance, it’s a girl’s dream come true. Now you can finally see if that cute boy from class is worth asking out, and you can finally let the world know how cheap your ex was. But then we dig a little deeper. Do you really want to know about all the girls he has hooked up with? Do you really need to see what all of them think about his prowess in bed?
The personal level that this app goes to is definitely inappropriate. It’s like a dating site, but only one sided. None of these guys asked to be put on a website and critiqued (and some might have good reason not to). It’s one thing to gossip with your girlfriends about the guy with bad breath that you went out with last week. It’s another to tell the entire female species, especially when he doesn’t even have the chance to defend himself.
For all the girls out there that are saying, “So what, we have a right to know more about the guys out there,” think how you would feel if the tables were turned. Would you like being rated on the size of your breasts, and if you put out on the first date? Do you really want your ex to spill the beans about your fetishes? Do you want every single guy you know to look at that profile and decide you’re not date-worthy just because one jerk decided to give you a bad review? It wouldn’t be so great then, now would it?
If the guys had signed up to be critiqued, I’d be all for it. Let out whatever you have to say about them, after all they asked for it. But they don’t sign up for. Judging men like pieces of meat is sexist and demeaning.
Besides, I personally don’t want to know every little thing about all the guys in my life. That’s what dating is for, to discover things about them for yourself. Picking out the perfect guy based on other’s people’s reviews is not going to work out. So instead of overanalyzing that your crush is only rated a 3.4 in the kissing department, just forget about what everyone else says. Judge guys based on what you see, not on what a bunch of ex-girlfriends saw.