If you told me a year ago — maybe even a few months — that my city would be on the front page of the New York Times, or lead the A-Block on "Good Morning America," I would have been ecstatic.
Believe it or not, back then was a promising time for Charlotte. The Panthers and Stephen Curry were smashing records en route to championship appearances, and the city prepared for an economic boom because of the 2017 NBA All-Star Game.
College is a place where you form your identity, and the distance away from home (albeit only a two-hour drive) made me realize my identity is intertwined with Charlotte because it’s everything I’ve ever known.
Ask me how I feel now.
All of those hopeful aspirations for my city collapsed. And instead of blue and black confetti caressing a Lombardi Trophy as it paraded Bank of America Stadium, the smog of tear gas and the barks of protesters replaced it. The narrative for this horrible scene stays the same — the only things changing are the names, the places and the hashtags. No matter where this familiar situation occurs — these controversial killings of people who look like me — emotions will always swirl inside.
And they swirled pretty often. Seeing executions on my Facebook feed has become somewhat of a routine for the past two months.
My confusion, disbelief and fear didn’t erode when high profiled shootings happened hundreds of miles away. I was just as perplexed when black men — in some cases, black boys — were killed in or near Miami, New York, St. Louis, Cleveland, Baltimore, Charleston, Milwaukee, Baton Rouge, St. Paul or Tulsa (did I forget any?).
But now, this venomous snake has slithered into my backyard.
And I hate it.
Uptown Charlotte erupts with protests. (Tribune News Service)
It’s irrelevant to me if Keith Lamont Scott “posed an imminent deadly threat” as officers say, or was reading a book as his family claims. There is no escaping the tragedy — it happened and there is no turning back. Charlotte is the next plot on the bloodstained map of mistrust — the biggest thing impacting me as a Queen City native. I drive into Uptown every week when I’m home. Sometimes I just sit and look at the skyline when I’m bored. I’ve eaten multiple barbeque chicken pizzas at Brixx on S. College Street.— one of the main streets shrouded with smoke and standoffs. In July, I attended a national sports writing conference at the Omni Hotel — the place where a demonstrator was shot and killed by a peer. Colin Kaepernick wasn’t exaggerating when he said there were "bodies lying in the street." I’ve said it before, but this week proved it — at the rate this country is going, I can easily become a hashtag. Now, the epicenter of the race-relations debate has invaded my hometown, and I can’t keep silent about it.
This is real to me.
Throughout this summer, the nation splintered into sides on this issue, but I’ve made a concerted effort to account both arguments. I was raised in a military household and trotted around in my father’s naval uniform for fun as a toddler. I helped prepare my white pastor, who has almost completed his theological Ph.D., to deliver a sermon to his 1,000+ member congregation on this topic in August. That was powerful to me because he humbly asked for advice from a 19-year-old because he knows I have inherently different perspectives and experiences than him. I even broke bread with 20 Charlotte-Mecklenburg police officers and 19 other black teenagers in August and gleaned into their mindset.
I feel like I’m as balanced as one can possibly be on this national epidemic. The instinctive black kid in me wants to let my frustration control me. After everything that’s happened, how can you blame me? But the logical, journalistic, articulate side of me understands what public servants endure on a daily basis and knows the majority of society genuinely doesn’t comprehend my race’s outrage. And in terms of finding a solution, it has become seemingly impossible. People tend to brush the conversation aside because it's uncomfortable. And when we try to spark peaceful awareness of this issue, we’re demonized, harshly condemned and even our patriotism is questioned.
But it's "forgotten" that our government has instated federal holidays honoring people, ranging from our forefathers to a prominent 1960’s Atlanta preacher, who were once considered rebels. Even this summer, before the nation polarized, the world conjoined to enshrine the legacy of a former heavyweight champion, and he essentially broke one of the most severe laws of his era. It’s a Catch-22 in every sense of the phrase.
It’s a no-win situation and the only thing I’m left with is a shattered, pummeled psyche.
It’s terrifying on so many levels to watch my city implode on a national stage. Charlotte is never going to be the same again. Every time I tell someone where I’m from, they’ll inevitably ask me about this episode and categorize my city — particularly those in my city who look like me — as something we are not. But that perception is a lie because my biggest mentors, who are mostly black men, are from Charlotte. Aside from our skin color, Charlotte is what bonds us together, and they have been instrumental in shaping me into the man I am today. They keep me from embodying the stereotype, but people will never know that — or they'll be too lazy to find out about that — because my city is forever smudged.
Hidden in Martin Luther King Jr.’s sacred “I Have a Dream,” speech is a section extremely relevant to the United States today, even if it’s six decades later. It reads:
“This sweltering summer of the Negro's legitimate discontent will not pass until there is an invigorating autumn of freedom and equality. Nineteen sixty-three is not an end, but a beginning. Those who hope that the Negro needed to blow off steam and will now be content will have a rude awakening if the nation returns to business as usual…The whirlwinds of revolt will continue to shake the foundations of our nation until the bright day of justice emerges.”
Summer officially ended a few weeks ago, but “the invigorating autumn of freedom and equality” hasn’t swept in yet. The eyes of the world are descending on Charlotte to see how we react— and so far, it's been embarrassing.
President Obama recently mentioned my city in the same breath as Ferguson, which means the nation has categorized with the same type of anarchy and mayhem.
I wish we were in the headlines for something different, like a Super Bowl victory or All Star Weekend coverage. But as unfortunate as it is, we have the unique chance to be a trailblazer into enacting change with the eyes of the world looking at us. Charlotte will always be the best city in the world to me, regardless of what anyone says.
Now its time for us to prove it.